archive may 29 (later in the day)
The Art of Matchmaking-Well, i've got it in my head ages ago that matchmaking should be something i dabble in, after all, it does make people happy, and that's what i'd love to do. Unfortunately, my success rate is at a lame 0.3. why 0.3 you ask? Well, the pair i predicted in highschool will be married to each other have started talking to each other again. Which is a relief- i was thinking my prophecy was never gonna come to pass when those two fell out after highschool. But i did predict theirs is gonna be a discovery that after all this time, they are meant for each other. They have a forty pact. I plan to see it thru, maybe even before they're forty. That and i must find someone for shazzers. She's a little quirky, but there's a lot of things about her to love. Me thinks there may be a romance blossoming from across the channel, but i'm too unsure to intervene directly. He wont say, she wont say. We'll see what the summer brings-maybe getting stuck on a mountain together will set a spark? I sure hope so-my ratings are gonna suffer if i dont show some results soon.
This all came about on the tube today when i mentioned there might be a glimmer of a spark between these two ppl i keep on seeing together. She's a lovely, soft spoken girl who puts it all into her work and he's a nice, friendly kinda guy who hangs around her a lot. They see quite a bit of each other -me thinks that they may have something going on.....but no, instantly was told by two guys that the pair had no 'potential'. What's 'potential'? i read an article in newsweek once on matchmakers, and many argue its no longer an art, but more of a complex science. Compatibility tests, ratings and profiles now determine what's a good match- like on all of those website thingies. And more people are relying on them too, wonder why? Maybe it's because we wanna expand our choices, maybe we're more selective, maybe we wanna make things easier. To a certain extent, true, it sorta does filter out the totally uncompatible and 'not my types'. Then we list 'potentials'.What is it- is it shared likes, hobbies, jobs, pets, favourite colours? Is it opposites or complimentaries? what should be opposite and what should be complimentary? i wonder...When i figure it out my ratings as a matchmaker will skyrocket, im sure.
But im old-fashion and romantic when it comes to my matchmaking. I rarely use any common sense- i use imagination, wishes, hopes and a lot of positive thinking. Oh, and i believe in magic, sparks and fireworks. Perhaps even a boat and a high speed chase somewhere in exotic cities.
Yeah, i know-most couples i know that hack it out and live it out are rarely music and dances. It's usually gritty and messy or plain and boring. But what makes it work, what gives them 'potential'?
First requirement is probably physical attraction. Well, yeah, it helps if they're both fit and hot, but more importantly i think they must have something about each other they're pulled to. Maybe its's the eyes, or the smile or the way they hold themselves...You know, something to sorta make you look and go 'whoa'.
Secondly i suppose it's chemistry. See, this one is a bit hard to predict. A bit like cooking-it's the right balance that's needed. A balance of flavours, not too much of one, and not too little of another. Flavours compliment and can even make up for another. Different flavours help define and create a wholesome dish. With the spicy must be a touch of sweetness and with bitter there must be a bit of salt. You know, sweet chilli, cheese and onion, salt and vinegar kinda thing- crisps, who knew them as matchmaking philosophy........ Chemistry cant be predicted unless you know each of the pair well, and even then, it may get nasty. Not all experiments worked in chemistry, did they? Yeah, so this is touch and go kinda thing. The most interesting part and most volatile one. So far i usually try andd matchmake friends who already know each other who seem like they have chemistry so i cant say im any good at this. Im more of a 'oh, they get along well, seems like they like each other-lets shove them together in a small room and see what happens' kinda person. No, dont worry, i havent done that yet. Doubt it'll do ratings much good, but it roughly summarises my approach.
What's the third? im not sure....maybe it's practicality. Like yeah, sure magic romances are possible, by highly rare and therefore improbable. I find if romance is practical it has a higher chance of working. Not that non-practical ones dont work-just practical ones are easier. Pacticalities that come into play include: location, language, occupations, sleeping habits-you know, the drudgy stuff. Most pairs that make it arent usually all practical, but they make things work. They figure things out. They appease scary family members. They pay through the nose for phone calls, they change sleeping patterns. Whatever works....
So yeah, that's sorta my outline to matchmaking. Im crossing fingers and saying prayers wishing that my matched-up friends make it. I'm hoping for happiness, all the way. Still, i wont quit my day job.......